The Impersonal Personal

Have you ever had a problem with someone and knew it needed to be fixed? Generally the best way to solve it is to call them up, or better yet meet up with them somewhere. So much can be solved and instead of just getting over the bump bonding actually happens.

Right now in my life this is not so. I had this friend and for many reasons we grew apart (far far apart). I figured it was for the better and kinda moved on accepting the facts, but she still wanted to work it out. I understood. However, her way of fixing it was texting me nonstop. We were at a football game and I was having the best time ever until I look at my phone and read, "Why do you hate me? can't we just be friends? tell me whats wrong with me. We need to work this out." As many can assume that kind of killed the night. Why would anybody want to spend their Friday night dueling it out with someone. And that's basically what I told her. In the end I went home early just to get away from it all.

Things like this continued to happen. Emails, texts, little messages on facebook. It even went as far that she befriended my sister and started talking about me. She said, "It has to be because of her not me, because I haven't changed a bit." Lets say I wanted to scream. Why can't she tell me all this to my face?? Who knows.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is all of this could have been avoided. She could have called me at an appropriate time or asked to meet up at somewhere. Like a restaurant, or a park. Not a football game. Instead she had to keep it at a distance. She never once said a word to me about it. Not once.

When it comes to personal things like this, I know I would feel uncomfortable trying to convey what I mean through a text when it could be interpreted so many different ways, more often than not, making it all worse. Cellphones don't give hugs. Computers don't tell you it will all be okay. But friends and family can. Lets get this impersonal cycle a little more friendliness to it.

And by the way. We never worked it out. She wanted to talk it out about 5 minutes before church started and it didn't go so well. Later I received a message on facebook. Maybe things will never change.